Ep. 25 | Breaking Free from Loneliness

Isolation can be a silent thief, robbing us of joy and amplifying self-doubt. This week on Heart to Heart with Hads, I open the doors to my journey through the stormy seas of self-reflection, fueled by the challenges of a persistent cold and mental hurdles. Inspired by "100 Days of Believing Bigger," I uncover the "blessing blockers" that hold us back, with a spotlight on isolation. I share my realization of how my tendency to withdraw when disappointed has only deepened my loneliness and increased my self-doubt. Together, we'll explore the necessity of community and the profound difference a few trustworthy friends can make in healing and growth.

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Speaker 1: 0:00

Hello everybody, welcome back to another episode of Heart to Heart with Hads. I hope you've had a great week thus far if you're listening on a Friday. But yeah, I'm excited to get on here today because I've kind of been putting it off all week because I've kind of been feeling not too good, kind of dealing with a little bit of a cold and just like going through it for whatever reason, mentally, just really really been going through it. So today I kind of just wanted to do like a little bit of a chat on my devotional and kind of what I've been learning throughout it. So I'm doing a hundred days of believing bigger and just a lot of self-realizations that I've had while doing it. I just kind of wanted to go through it.

Speaker 1: 0:54

So I have not fully finished, but the first section it was about trust, and then we went into purpose, into identity, then disruption, then belief, faith, and now we're on to blessing blockers and this, this one that I came across this week that I really wanted to share, was isolation. So if you know, then you know that I tend to really isolate and like to be alone and I like to avoid feelings and I don't know, maybe if it's because I've just had like betrayal or maybe just, you know, been disappointed. But I think that because I set my expectations disappointed, but I think that because I set my expectations too high from others and when I get let down, I just want to isolate and not be around anybody. And so I mean, really, it's like it says in here, isolation is really a fear of trusting others. Um, prolonged solitude is the soil of self-doubt. So it's kind of bad for me because I feel like anytime like something arises that I really turn to just isolating, um, and so it's it's quite frustrating that I do that, and so I'm just kind of realizing it. Um, that I do that, and so I'm just kind of realizing it. Um, so I guess I kind of just wanted to like shed light on, like you know, like loneliness, and like if that's something that you feel, like you're going through right now, which I can definitely totally relate, then you're not alone.

Speaker 1: 2:38

But just knowing that I, that the loneliness, the isolation, is not going to make you feel any better. And this is kind of a message to myself, but also like a message to anybody that's listening it's like you need people. You need people in your life, you need to be surrounded by people that you love and care about. And one thing that's been hard for me ever since I stopped working my corporate job is I don't see anyone throughout the day and I crave so much of like human interaction now and like I'll do anything to just get that little itch. And if you're someone that like and I think it's hard too that because ofch and if you're someone that like and I think it's hard too that because of like COVID and things like that, when they all happened it was like, you know, you were so isolated all of the time and so I think I kind of just like grew accustomed to that and I never really like got away from that since then. Like, even when I was younger, I always was just like, always had a lot to do, always around people. Sorry if you heard the pages turning. I just kind of wanted to go back to that isolation page.

Speaker 1: 3:52

But yeah, I mean, anytime I isolate, it always leaves me feeling worse than if I were to open up or like really immerse myself into something where I'm near people that are passionate about the same things that I am, or that love the same thing I am, um, but it's a really bad habit of mine to just pull away from people. I do like to be by myself a lot, um, and I think that I can, you know, kind of course, correct by allowing myself to, you know, only be vulnerable with those that I can trust most. But, um, I feel like finally, I'm finally coming to the point where I have, you know, those couple, two friends that I can really rely on, because for the longest time it was just, like, you know, my mom and my sister, and that's really all I confided in. But this week I actually have taken a bigger leap of faith and I have decided to go see some, like go talk to somebody other than you know, my mom and my sister, which I think is going to help me tremendously, because there is just like a lot of things that have happened to me in the past six years not to me, but you know in my life that I feel like I could benefit from seeking support, and so I just kind of wanted to put this out there of like do not isolate, know that people care about you and even if it takes you having to really let go of this feeling of being strong, that you don't have to be strong. You can rely on people and talk to people to help, to seek help, and it's okay, like it's not something to be ashamed of. So this is just a reminder that we cannot isolate, we cannot be alone.

Speaker 1: 5:55

It's definitely detrimental to our health and I've been seeing it firsthand with myself that I really really need to be able to put myself out there more obviously. Yes, I'm very present on social media, things like that, but when it comes to like personal connection, I definitely lack in that aspect and it definitely plays a part on my overall mental health and it just kind of says in here I don't know if you're spiritual, if you're listening, but God wants us to be in community with others, especially other women who can support our growth. Look at Mary and Elizabeth. They both need each other during a precious time, a pregnancy that required a circle of faith. Plus, our lives are intentionally interconnected. The very wisdom you need to make your shift will likely come from a messenger you're least likely to expect or appreciate. So I don't know.

Speaker 1: 6:42

I've been very grateful recently for just like my friend my one friend, and she knows who she is but like I've never truly had a friend that's been there for me like that. So it's really important to find those people that care about you on a deeper level and really confide in them. And, like I said, if you need to get some extra help mentally, it's okay to do that. You don't have to avoid that. And for the longest time, I think that I was trying to avoid it because I was like you know what? I'm too tough, I'm too hard for this, I don't need it. But guess what I do? Too tough, I'm too hard for this, I don't need it, but guess what? I do need it and I'm admitting it. So I'm just going to encourage you, if you're not already. Obviously you know like I'm spiritual, so I'm putting my faith into God, but there's only so much you can do when it comes to that.

Speaker 1: 7:35

And you need real human interaction. You need a circle of friends. You need people to talk to every day. You need real human interaction. You need a circle of friends. You need people to talk to every day. You need that human interaction, that human connection. And, yeah, I really hope that this episode helped give you some like insight, of like stop trying to be alone and do everything on your own. We're not meant to function like that we're meant to have people in our corner in our lives that are going to help us and help us figure out who we are as a person.

Speaker 1: 8:04

So I know this episode is short, but I'm kind of feeling under the weather, but tomorrow I well, when you're listening it'll be today I leave for Austin. I and Lincoln and I are going to Post Malone and I'm so excited and it's going to be such a fun time and I are going to Post Malone and I'm so excited and it's going to be such a fun time and I literally cannot wait because I've never been to Austin and I really have always had a dream of going there. So, yeah, I want to kick off the weekend and have a lot of fun there. But I hope you guys enjoyed this episode. I know it's really short, but I wanted to keep it sweet and kind of just like heartfelt on how I'm feeling this week Pure heart, short, but I wanted to keep it sweet and kind of just like heartfelt on how I'm feeling this week, pure heart to heart with ads this week. So if this touched you in any way, if you can relate, please let me know.

Speaker 1: 8:48

Love to talk chat I've just about said chat and talk at the same time. Love to talk with you, to you in the DM or whatever it may be, and just know that you're not alone in this life. But we do need to be surrounded by community and always. You know, being by ourselves is just really not healthy. So, like I said, don't forget to leave this a review. I want to do a Q&A. I was going to bring my mom on today, but I was like you know what mom? I just needed to be short and kind of sweet to the point. But hopefully I'll get her on soon. So hope you guys enjoyed and don't hesitate to reach out to me if you need anything and I'll see y'all in the next episode. Bye.